“.. humm, ok .. its kind or like you both knowing the oven is hot.. but you both decide to touch it together anyway”. Chaos and beauty.”
So I’ve had several conversations with different friends both male and female about their relationships. Some good and some just horrible. I have come to the conclusion that I am the go to person when things get hard for them because I give good advice. No correction, I give GREAT advice. Now as a disclaimer, I am also the same person that never takes their own advice so go figure. Everybody needs advice at some point. I wrote this blog because I kept giving the same message to everyone that came to me asking the same questions. What is that question you ask? Well it’s the one that you might see coming based off the title of this blog.. “Is she/he my soul mate. Truth be told.. there is actually something beyond soulmates, it’s called twin flames and I’ll break both twin flames and soul mates down for you so you can understand both pretty clearly.
By definition a soulmate is a person that is ideally suited to another as a close friend or romantic partner. That’s a pretty lame unseasoned definition in my opinion. Basically a soulmate is a person that will ride with you forever. A soulmate is a person that your connected to through all your ups and downs. You bonded on a spiritual level like bffs for your soul. You tend to share everything with that person from your daily events right down to your darkest secrets. There is no off limits with this person. Everything literally is a go. You trust this person with your life. Finding a soulmate usually leads to marriage or at least very close to it. You have been searching your entire life for someone that you can “click with” or “settle down with” and that’s usually a soulmate.
Have you ever just met a person and felt like you have known that person all you life? I mean you haven’t spent a whole day around that person but you feel like you have spent a lifetime around that person. Yup, that’s a soulmate. Your connected on more then a physical level. There are all kinds of soulmates and truth is a person can have more then one soulmate in a lifetime. That’s why most people can love more then one person in a lifetime. I’m sure a few of you have been there. And when asked how can you love two people you really can’t explain it.. it just is. There are several signs that let you know that you have met your soulmate. Here are the top 5 signs:
1. You just know.
You have a feeling deep down inside you that guides you in a primitive kind of way. Your survival instinct. You don’t have to second guess it at all. You see them, you like them, you want them, you stay together. Kind of like swans finding a mate. Once they are together they are together for life. If one dies off then that’s pretty much it. Their mate can’t be replaced. You feel connected!
2. They change you.
When you first meet your soulmate everything seems perfect. I mean you feel like you have known them forever then something happens. You come alive. You begin to change in a good way. They fill the empty spaces in you that you didn’t know existed. Now I’m not saying poof things magically happen kind of change. I mean at times you both will bump heads and fight but when the dust clears there will be progress. Your soulmate will challenge you to be greater then what you already are.
3. The feeling.
The intensity you feel in a relationship with your soulmate is like no other relationship you have ever dealt with before. It can be extremely overwhelming in both a good and a bad way. Being able to meet in the middle and compromise on the tougher issues is a must. Both you and your soulmate feed on each other and build one another up when things start to get a bit discouraging. When you hold each other at the end of a tough day all the stress and worries wash away and everything is ok afterward. The energy that you lose over a day is replenished like a battery rapidly charging.
4. Choosing your battles.
All you want in a soulmate relationship is to be happy. A majority of the time you don’t argue at all, the flaws you may have found annoying in your ex’s you don’t see in your soulmate. You might find those flaws attractive. If your married to your soulmate there is most likely the thought of doing it all over again if u could and have no regrets. Yup, not a single regret will even come close to crossing your mind. The love that you feel for each other is true and pure.
Your soulmate is very easy to be with. You don’t have to act a certain way or pretend to be something your not. Your soulmate will accept you for who you are and wont pass judgement. Your soulmate will encourage you to be your best without being a dictator.
Twin Flames on the other hand are a bit different. Unlike a soulmate relationship which are relationships with our perfect matches or our other halves twin flame relationships are relationships with our twin selves or mirror selves or more commonly put perfect mirrors of ourselves. Twin flames in my opinion have a bit more magic attached to them. They are a bit more mystic and intriguing. Just like soulmates they have a very intense trait to them that compliments you as a person in great ways. Unlike soulmates you and your twin flame have experienced life in uncanny but familiar ways. You both are drawn to each other and the feeling to be around them is magnetic.. yup, like magnets. You have been searching for your twin flame since you can remember but just don’t realize it. You both bond immediately and when you are together its explosive and forever life changing.
With a soulmate you bond. It feels like you have known each other forever so love isn’t really a topic. You just get it. With twin flames the term love is so much more defined. Love has always been a funny word to me because it’s definition of love is so loss. You love your mother and father. You have love for your friends family. However the love you have for your twin flame is well… passionate. Its something that you don’t need to force or have it make any sense. When you see your twin flame its on immediately and you know it.
Twin flames just don’t get along with you and heal you twin flames awaken a part of you that you never knew existed. They awaken the magic and wonder in your life. Twin flames also awaken a very dark side or the opposite side of you because again they are your “other half” whether it be a darker side or a lighter side of you. In the very end twin flames complete you. You don’t have to be with a twin flame in a relationship or marriage. Their proximity alone is overwhelming. There are also several signs that let you know that you have met your twin flames… and of course here are the top 5 signs:
1. You are free
Both you and you twin flame can’t be around each other for too long. You both are volatile for each other like a match to gasoline. There was a saying that I once heard. It said.. “twin flames are kind of like you both knowing the oven is hot.. but regardless to the danger of getting burned you both decide to touch it together anyway”. You come and go in each other’s life frequently but always are drawn ack to each other.
2. The Change.
Every time you spend time with your twin flame you grown, you find something new in yourself, you develop new thoughts and ideas. it’s nothing physical but more mental and spiritual. Every episode you have with your twin flame is defined by a change. Good or bad but change is a constant. Both you and your twin flame are more then just friends or lovers you both learn from each other on a regular basis and the lessons are usually intense and mind blowing. They definitely add a sense of value to your life.
3. The Power Couple.
Being around your twin flame fills those holes in you and builds you up. You finally realize how much you need one another. The same goes for them. Once you get through all the bull shit you give each other a force awakes in you both. You become a powerhouse and the energy you both put out is powerful and those vibrations immitted can be felt by everyone around you and they love it. They become one and that oneness is their super power. There is no more fear or doubt. Anything is possible at that point. Every idea you have or desire you share can be accomplished because you have each others back.
Since your twin flame awakens a new side of you it also opens up new feelings within you and one of the strongest feelings you have are your emotions. You use your emotions to let people know how you feel on a regular basis. You dont even have to say a word for someone to catch your vibe. Imagine having those feelings amplified. Your twin flame magnifies those feelings and energies to help awaken who you are. A lot of those feelings you may not be familiar with especially if your a man. That energy will later help heal the parts of you that need healing or develop the parts of you that need growth.
5. The Connection.
It feels like you are always pulled back to them no matter how far you go away or try to move away. You have been searching for them all your life and now that you have found them it will be hard to live without them. It’s said that one of you is the spiritual one and the other is more practical one and that’s the purpose of the entire relationship between you both. One teaches the other learns and it’s constant. Both you and your soulmate may be different but that’s what connects you. Somewhere down the line there is a similarity but for the most part the differences you share feed on each other making your bond inseparable.